tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35396165.post7653227088377995063..comments2023-09-13T07:28:21.373-07:00Comments on You Can’t Unscramble Scrambled Eggs: Blogging funk.Frannie Farmerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09857687216047303208noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35396165.post-54086414877304597212007-02-12T13:15:00.000-08:002007-02-12T13:15:00.000-08:00I agree with T-Girl, too! LOL. It's true that the ...I agree with T-Girl, too! LOL. It's true that the opposite of love is indifference.<BR/><BR/>Frannie, honey, I feel for you. I wish I had some good solutions. Venting is good, though! Even if other people don't want to see it, you can acknowledge to YOURSELF how you feel.xxxxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16348725618072239708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35396165.post-2117257759005599842007-02-10T22:09:00.000-08:002007-02-10T22:09:00.000-08:00LMAO... I will take it offline tomorrow when I am ...LMAO... I will take it offline tomorrow when I am more awake but I HAD to say I agree with Swishy also! LMAO She is right, people DO tend to say stuff when they are hurt and to hurt back BUT... here is the kicker... why are they hurt? A complete stranger (except narcisistic A-HOLES) don't care enough to be hurt or hurt back. Does that make sense? There are always two sides to every story, the sticker is trying to look at it from both sides. NEVER easy, especially when you are on the other end/the middle of it. This however does NOT make others actions or word correct behavior or even right for that matter, it is just thier perception from inside their hurt. <BR/><BR/>My comment was just an over simplification of a complex matter. I am not sure I explained it well this time either but I am SO damn tired right now I hope you all will forgive me! LOL<BR/><BR/>Hugs- t<BR/><BR/>PS BTW- this damn post is part of the reason I am so tired! I hope you feel good making a girl stay up tell 5 am thinking on stuff when she has to be up at 8... she kind of pushed it till 9:30 though and was late to her neices b-day... bad girl! LMAOT-girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01880195323752995377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35396165.post-57592804035106852692007-02-10T12:49:00.000-08:002007-02-10T12:49:00.000-08:00Trish - therapeutic, yep!Heather - I do feel bette...Trish - therapeutic, yep!<BR/>Heather - I do feel better. Less bitter. <BR/>Beth - I do feel better, I would have screamed if it wouldn't hurt my pounding head so much :O)<BR/>Pru - thanks sweetie, I do think <I>part</I> of it is the SAD thing .. I loathe February.<BR/>RR - While I am SO glad to be your soul sister, I am sorry that we are feeling similarly .. it is icky.<BR/>T - take it offline baby, I would love to hear your take on things .. and give you more unbloggable background.<BR/>Swishy - you = nail on head. Especially the last part. I hear this: "you're feeling better, right ... your head doesn't hurt anymore, right ... you aren't sad about that anymore, right ...blah, blah, blah" ALL THE TIME. Over and over and over. How do I answer without letting someone down – because I should feel better … And the kicker - when I say "I feel like THIS (insert depressed, anxious, panicky)” – I get ‘no, you don’t really feel that way’ … <I>not</I> I wish you didn’t feel that way or I am sorry that you feel that way or you don’t seem to feel that way – but <I>you DON’T feel that way</I> - as if I can’t possibly <I>know</I> how <I>I</I> feel.<BR/>You know, I could go on and on … and I generally do, but the truth is; I am not ok. I have not been ok for quite some time, but we don’t want to talk about that because it will cause a stigma … and if we <I>acknowledge</I> that I am <I>not ok</I>, we have to address the other people who are (differently) <I>not ok</I> … it is a cycle.Frannie Farmerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09857687216047303208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35396165.post-33575030838299515252007-02-10T10:52:00.000-08:002007-02-10T10:52:00.000-08:00I'm gonna respectfully disagree with T-Girl and sa...I'm gonna respectfully disagree with T-Girl and say that maybe SOME of those things are said by people because they love you, but not all of them. Some of them are definitely said with the intention to hurt. And even things that are said "for your own good" can be said in a loving and respectful way instead of a critical way. <BR/><BR/>Anyway. <BR/><BR/>It can be very frustrating when people just want you to be OK all of the time, and you don't FEEL OK. No one wants to hear about the bad stuff, huh? No one wants to know when you're sad or upset--it makes them uncomfortable. Which makes you feel even worse, because then you have to pretend, and I think pretending can make you feel like you're slowly dying inside. <BR/><BR/>Take a big, deep breath. It helps.xxxxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16348725618072239708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35396165.post-17427319155654106702007-02-10T00:34:00.000-08:002007-02-10T00:34:00.000-08:00Hum, I keep thinking on this. I didn't post becaus...Hum, I keep thinking on this. I didn't post because I was not sure what to say and I don't like coming off as "kicking someone when they are down" which I would not be! lol<BR/><BR/>First off there may be some truth to what Pru is saying in her blog, we live in the NW, not exactly a booming metropolis of sun and happy here. LOL<BR/><BR/>The rest I am going to think on some more. I am assuming these things are coming from Mr. Farmer? I really have some things to say, I just need to think on them, how to say them best so they come across correctly then I will probably EM them but it will be a few days. K?<BR/><BR/>In the mean time... the people who WOULD say this say this type of deal say it because they love you. They want to love you or they would not care to say it. Remember that, for me when Big J says things like this I have to remember that. Critism of any sort is hard becuase of my upbringing so I HAVE to tell myself this!<BR/><BR/>Crap... Baby J is awake!!!! <BR/><BR/>(((HIGS))) TT-girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01880195323752995377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35396165.post-5964186314380130502007-02-09T21:36:00.000-08:002007-02-09T21:36:00.000-08:00I swear we are sharing the same brain..... either...I swear we are sharing the same brain..... either that or we are total soul sisters..... <BR/><BR/><BR/>(((((((((hugz))))))))))))))))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35396165.post-72725131409141827652007-02-09T16:50:00.000-08:002007-02-09T16:50:00.000-08:00ugh. I wish I could say something helpful but I am...ugh. I wish I could say something helpful but I am suffering from the doldrums right now myself. I guess will both just have to hang in there.Prunella Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05417020468879289426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35396165.post-22409166228439622852007-02-09T13:24:00.000-08:002007-02-09T13:24:00.000-08:00:)Thank God for blogs. Do you feel better?Hugs Fra...:)<BR/><BR/>Thank God for blogs. Do you feel better?<BR/><BR/>Hugs Frannie.<BR/><BR/>Things will improve.Heather Hansenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13814444108289873041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35396165.post-31127001921533157752007-02-09T11:32:00.000-08:002007-02-09T11:32:00.000-08:00Posting it out on a blog is therapeutic, no?Posting it out on a blog is therapeutic, no?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com