Thursday, January 25, 2007


Have you given it any thought?

Why would you?

Well, of course you know I have been gettin' all deep lately. Thinkin' about what I wanna be when I grow up, thinkin' about what I want to be remembered for ... and really sorta stressin' about what people might say about me if I up and kicked the bucket tomorrow.

Too deep for this blog? Maybe.

Yea, so part of the homework ... is for me to write my Epitaph ... where does one start? How will people remember me? How do I want them to remember me?

How do you write this without sounding vain? How can I possibly be truthful here ... my brain can't wrap around the process. I am trying to break it down; what do I stand for, what am I passionate about, what do people think I stand for or am passionate about?

It's strange ... I am pretty private, I am not sure that I let people see that far inside me. I go, I do, I don't really want acknowledgement ... I try to stay incognito.

What about you?
What would people say? What do you hope they will say ...

ep·i·taph /ˈɛpɪˌtæf, -ˌtɑf/ [ep-i-taf, -tahf] – noun
1. a commemorative inscription on a tomb or mortuary monument about the person buried at that site.
2. a brief poem or other writing in praise of a deceased person. –verb (used with object)
3. to commemorate in or with an epitaph.

~ Frannie

No possession is gratifying without a companion. -Seneca

Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work: You don't give up. -Anne Lamott

For it is commendable if a man bears up under the pain of unjust suffering because he is conscious of God. 1 Peter 2:19


Anonymous said...

Are we sharing the same brain?? This post is exactly what I have been thinking about in the last 3 days!!!

Good luck with finding answers....

Jenster said...

I had to write my obituary when I was in college. It was supposed to be after a long, successful life. I can tell you that if I had to write a real one right now at 41 it wouldn't look anything like when I was 18!

Anonymous said...

Humfpt... I hope my other reply went through, let me know if not! LMAO

Frannie Farmer said...

RR - You, me and T ... we need a weekend away. I can only imagine that we would solve all of the worlds issues :)
Jen - I have never done it. I am seriously struggling ... trying to define what I do.
T - lost in space baby .. didn't see it. Sorry!

Anonymous said...

This is a really hard question...not to be taken lightly, either. Now you've got me thinking!

jagular said...

I think mine would look something like this: Here lies Jagular. He sure owed me a lot of money.

TTQ said...

Funny enough I was thinking about my "remains" yesterday. I wasn't sure if I should broach the subject with Honey, Like "Hey honey is there room for me in the family plots?"

He doesn't like to talk about it because I have chronic illnesses..

Anonymous said...

Never thought of it, though I have thought about what mark I will leave on the world. I guess I'm less interested in summing up my life in words than I am in the actual impact of my actions in life.

Anonymous said...

I sometimes wonder this same thing although I have never actually put anything into words. But since epitaphs are usually written by other people for the deceased writing one myself would probably be way off the mark.

Anonymous said...

Here lies Bre. She had fabulous shoes.

Frannie Farmer said...

Anne - it is a tough question. It has me thinking; how long do I wait before I do what I want to be remembered for?
Jag - I seriously doubt it. You are the MOST dedicated guy I know (well in an 'I don't really know you" sort of way) and I am certain that you will be debt free and on y our way to a Bill Gates sorta status before we know it ... especially the giving $$$ away to those who need it most.
TTQ - I can't blame Honey. I have had many, many medical issues and while Mr. Farmer is a good partner, that is one area that he does not like to discuss AT ALL.
S* - Way to go. I think that is as it should be ... like I said; when should I start doing what I want to be remembered for? Umm how about yesterday!
Trish - I have had several friends who have been given this homework assignment from their councilor ... it has made them think things through more clearly .. I guess that is why I am at it.
Bre - oh...there was a time - BB (before brood) that the same could have been said about Frannie.
But I think yours might be more like;
Here lies Bre - she captured the world one fabulous photo at a time.